Habits of Escaping Love and Acceptance
“Love is made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure: acceptance, understanding and appreciation. Remove any of these three and the triangle falls apart” - Vera Nazarian
I hereby write this piece for every person who has ever thought that they are undeserving of the love and support that surrounds them. For every person who has felt like they could potentially be a burden or not worth the effort/attention they really need.
One of my many bad habits is that when I go through a personal traumatic event or something that really drags me down, I tend to fall without grasping the hands of my loved ones out of fear that they will not accept the negative parts of me. I have the tendency to convince myself and those around me that I am feeling okay even if I’m not; I do not wish to throw my emotional turmoil on top of them and cause them unnecessary stress or anguish. I end up not letting them know what is going on until I feel or look broken. Unless you have had the privilege, like I have, to join a field of study in which you investigate and frequently talk about mental illnesses, you may feel like you have nobody to turn to as you are blinded by your stages of grief or feel that nobody will understand.
However, so many people want to see you thrive on a daily basis. Your actions have constant reactions, whether that be big or small. You touch everyone you see each day in little ways, even if it is just a smile in passing or small talk. Even if you don’t find it to be a big deal, it could have made someone’s day. You matter more than you know and the sooner you accept that, the sooner you will heal. The sooner you understand that help and love is everywhere, you will blossom. This does take time and is not an easy process, believe me, but you will get better one day. Whether you take huge strides or not many at all, you will reach your aspirations and others will bask in the light that you have to share.